Is there something as caring too much?

“We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

I don’t know how many of you are like me – you see someone that needs caring for and your maternal instinct just. kicks. in. It doesn’t matter who the person is, how close you are to them, or how they treat you – if they need your help you’ll just be there because it defies every being of who you are NOT to take care of them.

Maybe this is not something that everyone relates to – but to those that have the maternal/paternal instinct i know you know what i mean?

Now have you been through that frustration of growing to care so much for a single person who just doesn’t seem to take your care seriously? It’s unnerving and hurtful. It makes you  want to just stop caring, but yet you can’t. Is there something as caring too much? Is there a limit when we need to just stop? Or should we just go on.

Logically, in a such cost-benefit-analysis world where we would only want to do something for our own selfish reason why should we even care at all? ESPECIALLY if the person you are caring for doesn’t seem to appreciate your care. If it’s painful, why do we need to suffer right? Well yes some people might say that.

BUT, I am a sole believer of showing all the love I have for someone (in whatever form it is) no matter what. Sometimes, this world is too selfish, too self-centered, too independent, too proud, to show their emotions to show how human we are. At the very centre of humanity is community-living. We are made to help each other.

Think about it. What exactly are our lives defined by? We are defined by the relationships we build with other people. We don’t technically exist (well ok except maybe by official records) without the definition of a relationship. By us knowing another person, other people know of our existence. We all live in an interconnected network of interactions. So why are we trying to cut ourselves off from others? Why are we trying to fight for what we want alone when we can do it with other people? Why do we shut off the love other people give?

I personally don’t feel it is necessary to be alone. The more love and affection you show to other people (be it friends, family, lover) the more you strengthen that bond and relationship.

It may seem naive to suggest that you should continue to care for someone that doesn’t seem to care but what if they just can’t show it? What if your care is the only thing motivating them to fight on? After all, we don’t know the extent to our own actions of caring. All we know is the care that we give. I personally think – don’t underestimate it. It can mean a lot.

Fight through the pain and the hurt of rejection, abandonment and lack of love from the person when they are not appreciative. Even if they don’t appreciate it, it gives an example to other people. This way, it might inspire others to do the same – to spread the love and care to others when they might not initially have the courage to do so.

So my conclusion would be that “No – there is no such thing as caring too much”. Remember what Mother Theresa said “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” Spread the love in this world that needs more love to all. Never be afraid to show how much you care because love has never been a weakness only a strength – if not for yourself, then for others.

“Some people’s weakness is that they care too much; `it is also their strength.” – Brigitte Nicole

Follow your heart. Find your passion ❤️

Being organised (well we all try)

“Organising is what you do before you do something, so that when you do it, it is not all mixed up” – A. A. Milne

Who can underestimate the importance of being organised? It might be difficult, might be boring, but we all know it’s important. Being organised, helps us from making the place that we live in bearable to having a plan for the future. It sorts out all the things that is going on in our head and compartmentalise them into manageable pieces of information to be processed.

The difficulty comes with the implementation on how to be organised. Here are a few helpful tips on how to organise your life:

1. Make a plan.
No matter what you aim to be organised in, making a plan is always a good start. When you are trying to tidy up your room or decorate it, plan out where you want things to be (create a blueprint, if-need-be)! If it’s with regards to your future, making a plan of what needs to be done is also a good idea. It is always good to write down your plan somehow somewhere. This way it is tangible. Don’t forget to stick it somewhere you see often (e.g. in front of the mirror)
When you are making a plan:
prioritise!
How you prioritise totally depends on you because everyone have their own priorities. But since there is usually a lot of things that you want to do, make sure to prioritise what you want to achieve first and what can be delayed. This is extremely important!

2. Make a timeline
Deadlines are good because they keep you on track. Give yourself a deadline for each step that you have planned. Put in the specific date (and if necessary – time) of when each task need to be accomplished. This way you can make sure that your plan is going to work out.

3. Make a check-list
Not always applicable, but when you have planned for something long-term, you need to find a way to keep track of the progress you are making. A physical check-list often helps you. It also gives you the sense of accomplishment when you tick that box off one-by-one! Place your check-list somewhere visible! This way you are constantly reminded.

4. Speaking of reminders, set a reminder!
There is no reason that this is difficult these days because there is always Google calendar or apple calendar. Make sure to set a reminder of the things you need to accomplish in your timeline. If you really don’t have an electronic reminder, how about going old-school and getting an agenda? Or ask your friends/ family to remind you (make sure to find someone reliable that WILL remember though).

At each step, don’t forget to make sure its realistic. Remember – SMART goals! (read previous post 😊)

I agree with you that being organised is not easy. It’s in our apparently inherent nature to be lazy and procrastinate anything that requires organisation. But, I believe the only thing you need is the initial push to start organising. Once you begin, you really don’t feel like stopping. We all have to agree of the gratifying feeling of satisfaction once we have organised something. In the end we all appreciate orderliness, it’s just the thought of the effort becomes too much most of the time. Next time you are procrastinating on organising think of this quote:

“Clutter is the physical manifestation of unmade decisions fueled by procrastination”

Simple as it might be it’s a deep thought. No matter what is the form of clutter (physical or mental), it reminds us (well at least for me) of the things that I need to do.

AND (most importantly!) always remember to stay motivated and work hard! I’m sure there is some form of passion/ motivation behind wanting to be more organised. Remember that passion and motivation. It is often the only thing that will keep you going when you feel like procrastinating!

Hope this will inspire you and help you be more organised! If anyone have any additional tips please do share them!

Follow your heart. Find your Passion.